“I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second,” said Meghan, in an article penned for The New York Times, titled ‘The Losses We Share’.
Meghan and Prince Harry, the Duke of Sussex, had their first child, Archie, on May 6, 2019. The duke and duchess moved to California to live away from the media spotlight, after stepping back as senior royals in January.
“This year has brought so many of us to our breaking points. Loss and pain have plagued every one of us in 2020, in moments both fraught and debilitating,” she wrote.
“Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage.
“Yet, despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning,” the 39-year-old observed.
“Some have bravely shared their stories; they have opened the door, knowing that when one person speaks truth, it gives license for all of us to do the same. We have learned that when people ask how any of us are doing, and when they really listen to the answer, with an open heart and mind, the load of grief often becomes lighter — for all of us.”
Meghan then called on people to commit this Thanksgiving to asking others, ‘Are you OK?’.
“As much as we may disagree, as physically distanced as we may be, the truth is that we are more connected than ever because of all we have individually and collectively endured this year.”
Touching upon Covid-19 and its impact, she wrote: “We are adjusting to a new normal where faces are concealed by masks, but it’s forcing us to look into one another’s eyes — sometimes filled with warmth, other times with tears. For the first time, in a long time, as human beings, we are really seeing one another.”